What do you do, when you feel in your heart a sense of a beautiful and hopeful future but there doesn’t actually appear to be any tangible sign on the horizon that this feeling is justified? There are times in life when you have to focus more on the feeling of what you are wanting to create or allow into your world rather than on the actual planning of the steps to make this happen.
It takes a lot of courage to lean into the feeling state or vibration of that which you wish to experience. The thinking mind would much rather have checklists and action plans. It can be very quick to dismiss those ephemeral signs as being something unrealistic or ungrounded. The thing is though, for some of us, (myself included) planning is not a process that fully works, that is to say, without a little room for the unexpected, even the best dreams can lack a certain magic.
If this sounds like your experience of planning also, then take heart, sometimes the linear route to a long-held dream is not the fastest or even the best way there. Anytime in my life that I have tried to go directly at something I want, I find these seeming roadblocks or obstacles appear and I have to stop and re-centre. To go within and feel into the essence of what I am seeking. Then it’s almost as if the block lifts and I find a pathway I had not seen earlier that makes much more sense to my heart and things just “flow”.
Five and ten-year plans don’t really exist in my world and yet, when I look back on where I have been, so many amazing things have happened for me on my path. Things that I could never have thought up for myself. Admittedly, there is a sense of duality in this process, because you have to dream big and then just let go of the plan and the details. It’s an odd sort of a push-pull, wanting something and declaring this for yourself and the universe, but also being surrendered to the way in which it appears for you.
However, I have seen time and again for my clients and also myself, that the timing for the unfoldment of life plans and dreams is rarely able to be rushed or forced. This is so challenging for us as humans, patience is not a quality that we tend to appreciate; we get frustrated; we want to give up when things don’t go according to the way we wished or decided that they would. We cause ourselves a lot of extra stress and pain when we fight against our own process.
Manifesting really big dreams or steps on your path of purpose is the stuff of true soul alchemy. This is you and the Universe or the Divine working in concert to craft a very specific and tailored life experience for your soul. This is not “one size fits all” manifestation. If you know people who have a knack for manifesting things and opportunities with an ease you may not experience yourself, allow them this satisfaction but don’t use them as a measuring stick for your own path, please! It’s a personal journey, the manifestation of our life path and while we can gather inspiration from other people’s stories, we do need to be careful not to fall into the trap of comparing our journey with another’s.
So, if you are wondering are you failing in your manifestations or simply needing to surrender the timing and details a little more, I would say give yourself a break and see if you can believe it’s okay and it’s your process. You can always adjust your trajectory at a later date, but kindness to self is the best way forward in any situation.
Failure or patience? Growth or stagnation? Perhaps all these can serve our path if we hold an awareness of them and let our plans have some room for expansion beyond what the logical mind can envision.
If something doesn’t seem to be working, change your focus for a moment, let it go and follow that feeling state. This may change the steps required; but not the essence of your dream. Remember, it’s not merely by your hands alone that your life happens! At this end of the year, give yourself the gift of some time out, look for reasons to celebrate what you already have and keep your heart (and mind) open to flow instead of force.
Love and Light,
Laura